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Ghanaian women are everything but sluts�even when camped within the walls of a room, most of them will close their eyes and it is not that they are pretending, they genuinely have no wild ideas beyond the usual up and down movement� At least that has been my experience and observation�and my friend who has slept with over 200 women, ranging from those from Somalia to those from China even says so. He stands a better chance to make a good comparison. Do not be shocked, he indeed has slept with that many women and he has kept the dates, names and countries of origin well preserved�perhaps to celebrate when he hits the big 1000. I recently read an article which looked at how uninteresting and non-adventurous Ghanaian women are in bed and that is where I came across the silly reader comment; Ghanaian women are sluts. Personally, I believe the article was a little off the point as the writer could not possible have established from all Ghanaian women or even most of them on how adventurous or non-adventurous they are in bed. But many of us may have said this before, so perhaps the writer is right on the above assertion, though it comes up as a generalized statement. I wouldn�t go in for how he placed it, but I don�t think the assertion, most Ghanaian women are boring in bed is far from the truth�and the reasons why things are so should be obvious to those who know a little about Ghana/Ghanaians. First of all, sex remains a taboo on the Ghanaian calendar. People do not freely talk about sex or engage in conversations with any sort of sexual links even in today�s supposed contemporary Ghana. If sexual discussions are somewhat barred, what do you think would happen to practical steps to explore people�s sexuality or understand their own freakiness? Apart from the long standing traditionally imposed sexual taboo which has placed sexual censorship tape on the lips of almost every Ghanaian-both young and old, Ghanaian women care very much about what people think of them, less of what they really think of themselves. For some insane reason, being opened about sex and having no rules when it comes to sexual exploration or discussions is easily confused for being cheap, a harlot or a woman with no virtue in the Ghanaian settings. Therefore, even those who have the nerve to take up the sexual talk challenged are easily compressed into their shells, ending all potential discussions and sexual exploration among Ghanaian women. I don�t know what the connection is but I believe the general attitude of the Ghanaian public towards sex has a great impact on the private attitude of individual Ghanaians towards the same subject or action, affecting both the men and women�but greatly the women. In other parts of the world, your first sex with a woman could be the best ever with that person�because she may put all her �armour� on, ready to impress and show you what she knows, what she is made of and more importantly, ready to try new things as long as those new things would not kill her sex drive. When it comes to most Ghanaian women, the inverse holds. Even if the person knows something interesting, adventurous or wild, do not dream of seeing that the first time you get in bed with her, not even the second and if you are not lucky, you would never truly know her sexual fantasies or pile of knowledge. All because, most Ghanaian women have bought into the misconception that, such candidness and any attempt to parade themselves as individuals with keen sexual interest taint their womanhood�making them feel like sluts or others to see them so. There are different layers of importance people attach to sex but there is somewhat a consensus that, no matter where you place your importance, sex should be fun coupled with whatever else you desire to derive from it. With most Ghanaian sex, the fun barely exists (so a lot of friends claim) and people actually have sex because it is expected, it has become a relationship routine or purely for procreation purposes. That sounds silly but it is really true� I would surely want to know why most Ghanaian women come up as having low libido, no sexual fantasies and lack the desire to enter a sexual cosmos full of wild adventure. Until someone is able to tell us something new beyond what I�ve already stated above, let me reiterate that, Ghanaian woman are everything but sluts� I know the men sometimes wish they know where to turn the slutty key on�after all, �body no be firewood� says Abena.