<<Print>>If you and your partner haven't done the deed in the last month you're certainly not the only ones. Nearly half of Brits are unhappy with their sex lives because of an increasing pressure to perform, a recent study found. Previous research suggested that the average couple was getting hot between the sheets twice a week. But a study of 6,000 recently discovered that a whopping 51% haven't had sex in the past month. Just under 45% of adults in the UK also admitted that they aren't satisfied with their sex life.
Experts from relationships charity, Relate, think the sex draught stems from the pressure to perform. "People often put so much pressure on themselves to have ‘amazing sex’ that they end up avoiding it altogether or do not notice what is good about their sex lives," said a spokesperson for the charity. "But just thinking differently could work wonders for the nation’s sex lives."
They has also realised a guide to relieving stress to help get us back in the sack. Psychosexual therapist Cate Campbell – who has written the guide – argues that planning sex, talking about fantasies and kissing and cuddling in front of the children are perfectly normal things to do. "It’s sad that so few people are sexually satisfied and put pressure on themselves to perform," said Cate. "Noticing what is going well, rather than dwelling on problems, is quite difficult when we’re all bombarded with messages about how sex ‘ought’ to be. "Sex definitely doesn’t have to be disappointing - there's plenty that can turn your situation around so you can enjoy a sustained, fulfilling sex life." She added: "What constitutes a satisfying sex life can vary wildly from one person to the next, so working out what makes you tick is a great starting point. "People may feel concerned if they haven’t had sex in the past month but there are plenty of other ways to be sexy that don’t involve full intercourse." And it's not just Brits who are having less sex.
A study by the Society for Men’s Health Singapore found that third of people said they have see less than once a month. This is much less than than the once a week or once a fortnight frequency that many patients find idea according to Dr Colin Teo president of the Society for Men’s Health Singapore. “It could be due to stress, logistical issues like staying in a small home with kids and in-laws, or things like erectile dysfunction,” said Dr Teo.
This lack of sex could actually be detrimental to your mental health as many studies have found that orgaisming is good for your body in many ways. Firstly, people who orgasm more than four times a week look up to seven years longer, according to a survey of 3,5000 people. Dr. David Weeks, the British consultant clinical psychologist who conducted the study, said: "A vigorous sex life is the second-most important determinant of how young a person looks."
The first being physical activity. Orgasms can even help you love longer, according to the British Medical Journal. Climaxing actually boosts the immune system and improves heart health and brain power. So orgasms make us not only look younger they help us to live longer too. So try to anti-stress your life and ramp up your sex lives.