No one wants to be ambushed by an unexpected breakup. Sometimes itís pretty obvious when a breakup is on the horizon, but other times, the signs your girlfriend gives that sheís through with the relationship can be subtle.
If you can pick up on these hints, you might be able to do something about it before itís too late and you find yourself dumped. Or, if youíre entertaining the idea of breaking up yourself, you can beat her to the punch once you notice these subtle breakup warning signs.
Her friends donít talk to you: You may notice a change in how her friends act when you come around, in the past, they probably talked a mile a minute and you had trouble getting a word in edgewise, but now a strange hush falls over the group when you are present.
If your girlfriend has been talking to them about wanting to break up with you, they are going to distance themselves from you whether they realize they are doing it or not. So when you walk into the room, instead of greeting you warmly, theyíll find themselves at loss for words; itís a classic among breakup warning signs.
Once-mutual friends are now exclusively hers: This only applies if you get invited to events where her friends are in the first place, if sheís thinking about breaking up with you, sheíll probably stop inviting you along when she hangs out with her friends. They may have become mutual friends during your relationship, but when she wants to call it quits with you, they will become hers and hers alone once more. Itís likely a subtle breakup warning sign if her response to you asking about her plans for tomorrow night is along the lines of: Iím going to hang out with my friendsĒ.
Her stuff starts disappearing from your place. You are used to seeing her toothbrush beside yours in the bathroom, random DVDs she has brought over on your shelves and that Tee shirt she loves to sleep in strewn on your floor, but lately these things seem to be gradually disappearing. You might be tempted to blame some of it on a cleanup spree, but once the feminine products vanish from your bathroom cabinet, it should be clear that sheís moving her stuff out your place so she wonít have anything to go back for once she dumps you.
You donít fight anymore.
While fighting constantly may be a more obvious hint that the end of a relationship is near, not fighting at all might be a subtler sign that sheís ready to say goodbye. If the little things that normally drive her crazy and provoke a screaming match between the two of you are no longer happening, it could mean that she just doesnít care anymore. Itís possible that she has lost all emotional investment in the relationship, so even if you try to get a rise out of her, she wonít take the bait.
If she is uncharacteristically calm in situations that used to set her off, it might be a subtle break up warning signs. Anyone of these breakup warning signs on its own may be cause for alarm, but if you are experiencing all of them, itís pretty obvious that your relationship is in serious trouble. Decide whether you want to fix It or move on and then take the appropriate action. Allowing your relationship to stagnate in the state will only allow resentments to fester and guarantee that the inevitable break up will be ugly.
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