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Most ladies have found themselves wanting in relationships. The quest to be the “super love” in our relationships have landed many young ladies in the wrong books of their guys. 

There is this general perception that what men want in relationships is simple - sex. But on a more serious note, sex is not always want men seek for in relationships, they dig a little deeper.

In the article, “Understanding Your Man,” relationship expert, Grace Calderon, argues that a guy really doesn’t put much requirements on specific needs when you cross out the obvious. So for women, it can be a bit of a challenge and a much bigger problem than they think.  

Men want to be independent
You will find a lot of similarities when it comes to women's needs and men’s in relationships. This is much bigger for guys, because no guy wants their manhood stripped away. Don't control your guy, they don't like it. Even if they're letting you do it. Guys need to be independent.

Don't coddle and smother them. 
Guys don't want to be smothered, they need their breathing room. Smothering can be calling them too much, or always showing up unannounced. They want to spend time with you, but they don't want to be smothered with it. 

Let them miss you and reflect on the time spent. They need a little space, and sometimes a bit of guy time. Women don't always understand this, and it doesn't mean they're sick of being around you. It's just how men are. There are things men do, and things women do. Sometimes, they need some man time.

Avoid drama
If you ask any guy, this is the number one turn off when it comes to dealing with women. They want to avoid drama at all costs. Don't become the kind of person who constantly causes problems, arguments, and act overly sensitive easily. 

When they do something you don't like, discuss things rationally with them. Also, don't be too harsh and expect too much from them. Don't put ridiculous expectations on them, because guys hate that. Have a loose and relaxing attitude with them. They like laid back, not a woman who fills their life with tension.

Pay attention to them and make them feel confident
Men can definitely suffer from being insecure, something women don't always realise. Women may seem more insecure, but I wouldn't say that they are. Women get insecure physically, where guys get insecure mentally. 

So understand a guy’s mindset and don't bring them down. Bring confidence into them, and make them feel confident. Also, don't shut them out, because guys do need that companionship as well. They need someone they can open  up to.

Be cool 
Seems pretty simple, but guys like cool. Guys like a woman they can brag about, saying she likes this, and that and not someone who will be a control freak. You don’t need to act like his mom. He has a mom, he doesn’t need two.

Don't be over sensitive, critical, or emotional with them. Don't treat them like they're a baby. Never, ever talk down to them either, especially around people. 

Be funny around them, and be who you are. Be relaxing around them, you'll push the right buttons with them. This doesn't mean you can't express yourself, and your thoughts to them. You just don't have to be intense about it. Guys don't do well with dramatic scenes. Less drama, the more you'll get out of them.

Don't tell them everything they want to hear
Guys can be a bit insecure, but they can quickly grow an ego as well. Don't always tell them the things they want to hear, especially if they're feeling a little too good about themselves. I think women need to help balance a guy’s mindset. When they're a bit too down, you can say the right things to help boost them up.

Nothing is better than receiving a compliment from a girl you love. However, if they're getting a bit too full of themselves, you need to back off a little bit.