Whether you’re single or coupled up, come February 14th which is Valentine’s day, there are certain things you should bear in mind to help the day go more smoothly. Check out these don’ts for the special day.
Don’t assume your partner shares your feelings about Valentine’s Day: It’s no secret that some people love Valentine’s Day while others view it simply as a day designed to con us out of our hard-earned cash. If this is your first Valentine’s Day with your partner, it is important to find out which side they fall on.
Different things are important to different people and, while your partner not being overly excited about this occasion is no indication of their feelings towards you, it may be helpful to discuss your hopes and plans for Valentine’s Day in advance so as to avoid disappointment and, if necessary, reach a happy compromise.
Don’t forget the date!: No matter how Valentine’s Day scores high on your list of favourite dates or not, if it is important to the person you care about, then you should do your best not to forget it.
Not only will forgetting about Valentine’s Day potentially upset and hurt your partner, but you may find that they bring it up every February 14th for years to come!
To stay in your partner’s good books, set yourself a reminder of the day and make sure to keep the evening free.
Don’t get too swept up in the romance: On arguably the most romantic day of the year, it is easy to get swept up in the romance and say or do things you normally wouldn’t. Shopping for a pair of earrings can easily turn into a spontaneous engagement ring purchase, or a romantic dinner could lead to an impromptu declaration of love.
However, it’s important to make sure you are really sure before you change the dynamics of your relationship and that you haven’t just got carried away with the romance.
Don’t get in contact with your ex Romance is in the air, everybody is seemingly coupled up, so, for all you single guys and ladies, it is perfectly understandable that your mind may drift to love.
However, although the temptation may be strong to get in touch with your ex (or that guy you’ve been unrequitedly lusting after), don’t do it! No matter how lonely you are this Valentine’s Day, you can guarantee that setting yourself up for rejection and heartache will not make your experience more enjoyable.
Instead, spend your valuable time and conversation on someone who will appreciate it, such as a family member or friend.
Don’t overanalyse gifts: Unlike men, women have a tendency to analyse every word, gift and gesture from their partner to decipher hidden meanings. However, it is important that, although it may be disappointing, you don’t take a rubbish gift on Valentine’s Day to heart.
Just because he gives you a cheap and generic present, it doesn’t mean he is making a statement about your relationship; in fact, it may say more about his bank balance or feelings towards Valentine’s Day than it does about you.
Shop with caution: All the above said, guys, it’s still important to try to put a little thought into your gifts to try to keep Valentine’s Day conflict-free.
As a rough guide, avoid buying anything overly practical (Valentine’s Day is not the time to buy her a new iron, no matter how much you think she wants it), and definitely avoid exercise equipment unless you want to potentially cause serious offence.
For the men, unless you’re proposing marriage, anything that comes in an engagement ring shaped box is also out! Also, if you plan on buying some underwear or clothing, do make sure you know her dress size.
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