You scrimp, you save, you wash dishes, mop floors, endlessly pick up dropped shirts, towels, CDs, dirty dishes, endlessly put away shirts, towels, and whatever else needs to be done; regardless of how tired you are or how early/late/inconvenient it is � and that�s on top of your 40-stretching-to-50-hour work week.
Does your one-and-only appreciate it? Does he stop to say �Wow, good job! Sparkling clean dishes, great floors � thanks!� or �Gee, Honey, sport-free glasses and a neat house. You�re awesome!� Noooo. OK, so you can understand that others might take you for granted, but your live-in partner?
And how about the effort you make outside the home? No matter what the morning was like, you square your shoulders, take a deep breath, and walk in to work with a smile on your face and your very best positive attitude. You do your job with 100 percent effort so you can keep your salary coming in and keep your job secure given the present economy.
Again, do you hear any thanks for it? Do you get even an ounce of appreciation from your mate for your day-in-day-out work ethic? Noooo. All you get is, �Is dinner ready yet?� Grrr.
How can you get your partner to appreciate you?
You need to appreciate your partner. Oh, I know that�s not the answer you were looking for. But you see, appreciation is an energy and it attracts like energy.
As you start appreciating you, and if you are persistent and consistent, they will eventually express their appreciation to you in dozens of unexpected and delightful ways.How does it work? Appreciating is basically valuing, paying attention to, and acknowledging the worth of someone or something, and being grateful for how that worth contributes to your life.
So appreciating become something has done anything for you. You�re simply recognizing their value and expressing it to them. You can�t wait until someone comes along and does it for you. You could be waiting as you have for a very long time.
Mouthing and empty �You�re great� won�t work. It takes more than that. You have to identify the specific qualities and attributes that make up who your partner is, cherish them, and feel a deep sense of gratitude for them.
Here�s a simple way to consciously appreciate your mate: take a sheet of paper and draw a vertical line down the middle. On the left side, list the inner qualities and traits you value about him or her. On the right side, write down why you are grateful for each one of these qualities and traits.
Spend some time, everyday, noticing and valuing your mate. A moment or two is all it takes. And in case you�re thinking, �That�s a weird thing to do� or �Who has the time?� remember this is something you used to do for hours when you and your true love were first courting.
Now, tell your partner about it! Openly express your appreciation, in words: �What a great job you do around the house. I�m so grateful.� �Your idea about how we can cut back on household expenses is really good. Thanks, Dear�
And with touch: An unexpected kiss here, a quick hug there. The more you express your honest appreciation to your partner, the more he or she will begin to see the value in you. Oddly enough, the answer to �Appreciate me!� is really �How I appreciate you.�
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