Few people expect a couple to have remained virgins until their wedding day. See, there are just too many temptations in the liberal 21st century. Virginity is not viewed as a badge of honour.
Just why an American bride, Brelyn Bowman sparked online debate when, during her wedding reception, she presented her father with a signed “certificate of purity” showing that her hymen was still intact meaning she had not been in contact with any male penis in her life.
The then 22-year-old from Maryland had fulfilled a pledge made to her daddy, Pastor Mike Freeman, when she was 13. Pastor Freeman could not contain his pride. His daughter was among the few lasses anywhere who believed in sex before marriage. “It was my way to honour him,” Bowman told the press during her October 10, 2015 wedding. Her hubby, Tim Bowman Jr., had also promised to remain a virgin.
But just how does sex after marriage go for modern couples who have been clueless all their lives? Apparently, it’s a challenge especially when it’s the man who needs an internship in the sex department.
Take Sharon Chebet.
She was shocked in 2015 when her hubby turned into a log in bed. A pastor’s son, James Wafula had no clue what to do with Sharon on their wedding night. “He kept asking whether he was doing the right thing. The fact that I’m more experienced sometimes really pisses me off because I feel like the man in the relationship. I also feel immoral since I'm so experienced,” Sharon told us.
Even though Sharon and her husband get along very well, she still has a problem breaking it to him that his ‘game’ is pathetic. Then what happens when a woman finds that her hubby can’t rise to the occasion on their honeymoon... that their marriage will never be consumated? Eunice Njeri reconnected with her long lost friend Charles Njogu on social media and within a few months, they were planning their wedding.
Njogu had left for the US for further studies and the last time they had met they were both in high school. Their friendship remained at a hand shake level.
“She was quite excited when he proposed to her online and she said yes. Njogu sent her money and only landed a few days to their wedding,” a source close to the couple revealed.
Eunice would later be disappointed on their wedding night. Njogu was impotent!
“She kept hoping that he would change after a while but that was never to happen. She is stuck in that marriage just because she is a Christian and is embarrassed since it was a very big ceremony,” our source revealed, adding that besides being ‘saved’ Njogu lived abroad and the distance acted as a buffer to knowing whether Njogu had ‘elephant power’. But again, having a man who has ‘experience’ might result in lifelong agony if he slept with women who were ‘poisoned chalice.’
Beatrice Khalai was 35 years old when she tested HIV positive.
That was eight years into her marriage to a man she tied the knot as a virgin.
“I met my late husband in church and we started dating soon after. I was 27 years old and a virgin. He is the one who broke my virginity. I worked at a local school as a caterer, while he was a teacher. We got married in 1997 and were blessed with three children,”
Beatrice describes her husband whom she thought was perfect. It was only when she got pregnant with their third child that she discovered that she was wrong.
“When I went for the antenatal clinic, the doctor said it was compulsory to test for HIV and I confidently agreed. I had nothing to fear since I had lived my life perfectly. I almost had a heart attack when I was told I was HIV positive. I thought the doctor was mistaken and went home. I did not know what to do,” Beatrice who later lost her husband to AIDS told The Nairobian.
She blames the church for not counselling and recommending HIV tests before their wedding. There are times when the boot is on the other foot and men suffer in silence after marrying lasses who had ‘chilled.’
Edwin Omondi a father of two, laments that “Whenever we fight with my wife she likes to remind me that when we met she was a virgin and that I deflowered her,” and using the virginity bait against him gets his goat and to date, “my wife is the devil and our home is hell.”
Worse than a wife who uses virginity to keep her man is the unfortunate case of marrying a woman suffering from ‘penis captivus.’ This is a rare medical condition in which muscles in the vagina clamp down on the penis before full entry.
Source: www.standardmedia.co.ke
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Impotence is not an epidemic.lt is a rare health condition .Don't enter a marriage thinking your husband could be impotent .ln your attempt to find a very good man in bed,you may go home with a very sick man. It is not a bad idea at all to be with a man who will cut you to fit in.He would neither be too small,nor too large,afteral that is all you both know.
This article was written by a f00l and is n.o.n.sen.si.cal. What do you mean? Is it because you are not a virgin that’s why you are dragging everyone into that pithole of darkness with you. God forbid. I reminded a virgin till marriage and the length of your Id.i.ot.ic article is not enough to explain the joyful innocence and trust and bond I experienced with my husband. So are you suggesting it is better to play around with men and women and gain “experience” together with “heartbreak” before you’re ready for marriage? Are you listening to yourself? Teach that to your daughters and sisters. God have mercy on you for writing this article. You are definitely shallow minded. Young people please follow what God says in the Bible. Don’t commit fornication else you’ll just regret it. There’s indescribable joy when you sleep with your spouse alone for the first time; you are both innocent n semi-confused for the first time, it’s part of the exploratory experience and it’s so beautiful as you discover each other’s bodies for the first time. As time goes by you enjoy it more and better and God intended it that way. And not to ‘spoil’ yourself and bring it into marriage. It creates a lot of mistrust between yourselves believe me you don’t want that. As for this agent of S.a.tan saying you should explore before marriage so you know whether your spouse can perform leave him to perish with his doctrine. Before my marriage I found out about whether my man was potent or not, about diseases, etc all during counseling. They’ll ask you n teach you all those and that’s what you need. The rest you enjoy in marriage. If marriage is about getting the one with experience in bed, the author can go and marry a p.r.o.s.t.i.t.u.t.e. Please don’t follow such doctrines! There are countless virgins around. Not everyone is doing it🙏